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I was,  mind you 'WAS' going to begin my day with some sexy pics, maybe an oily boob video (girls gotta stay moisturized), BUT, I absolutely have to rebut some fantasmical BITCHING I've been reading, online. Grab your coffee,  Jack Daniel's, or Telly Tubby. This shit is about to get heinous:


So, over the last year or so, I've noticed a dramatic change in the personality of one of my favorite, ebony, male performer's.  
****Don't ask me to identify, by name, who I'm describing. If you know my work, you'll know exactly who I'm exposing.****

This man and I have worked together several times, our professional conditions had always been very charming, enjoyable, energetic and successful. 
Then, I began to notice this change........ this colleague began to make random remarks about being lonely.
His appearance began to shift from sleek and elite to athletically acceptable and camera ready. Don't get me wrong when I write this, I'm only remarking because a talent's appearance is their commitment, their announced dedication to their job. 
If a male, or female, has dramatic transitions in their appearance, who are on camera for a living..... especially in the sex industry, something terrible is happening in that person's life. 
Moving on, after noticing the change in my colleague's appearance, I still continued to hire him for gigs. Yes, I pay for some of the male talent you see on my website. If a male doesn't have a website, he doesn't do trade and must be hired to do the work.
Even with his shift in appearance, I would count on a powerhouse performance,one my audience would love.Those began to change.
I was thinking to myself, " Oh my.....I don't ask if someone's married, or, in a relationship because it's inappropriate, but, someone broke this guy's heart.....badly."

I knew. I just knew something had happened that was so awful to this man that he stopped caring.  He would literally show up, go through the motions, and leave. Performances lacked that sparkle, that magic of his unique, personal flair. His body was at work, but, his mind and his spirit hated every single second of it.

That made me sad for him. When we first met, I told myself, "This guy is going to be one of the greats. He'll be a Hall of Famer." Maybe he still could be.  Dude's gotta get his mind right. 

Why? It's all over a woman. 

I get it. Men have indescribably more obstacles, when it comes to finding a partner, love, a future to share with someone. Maybe even a family, house, white picket fence, all of that bullshit. I can tell you, as a personal expert in marriage and divorce,  your spouse or life partner,  should NEVER dictate what you do for a living. EVER. Because your job does NOT define you. It does not detail how considerate or passionate or generous you will be at home. Your occupation does NOT announce your loyalty to your partner, your home, your family, or your values. 
How you make a living can and usually does change,at some point in your life. Your CORE VALUES do not. 

To see one of the greats become bitter, and retired, to feel acceptable, by another person's standards (not his own), only to be loved.........

I've seen it before. I've done it myself. I've watched friends abandon developing empires to do right by their significant others, who should have been CHEERING THEM ON, instead of crushing dreams. Some have recovered their losses. I'm certainly clawing my way back.

To my colleague, my friend: I pray, 100%, you are happy. I pray, 100%, your future will be bright and give you every single thing you want in life. 
Should that not be the case, and, you decide to return to do what you've done so well, there's a community of us who understand. We won't ask questions or treat you any differently. Good luck to you. 😚